Wanted: Stable Life Partner

Damn, I feel like I'm old enough that I should be beyond this by now. It's hard to believe now, that when I was younger I had my mind set that I had to be married and settled in by 23. That seems like an entire lifetime ago. I had so many preconceived notions and fixed ideologies. Life's been unkind since, but it hasn't been so bad as to cripple me.
I should note that I'm not really posting this with any hope of response. Rather, I'm hoping to by process of writing articulate to myself what exactly it is I want. That's far easier said than done...

Wanted: Stable Gay Male for Lifelong companionship
Musts: These are non-negotiable...
-Be mature and accept responsibility for one's own actions.
-Be trustworthy. I generally trust you until I have reason not to.
-Trust me, especially since I'll give you no reason to do otherwise!
-Have respect for himself, and others.
-Have his own interests and friends but have time enough to share with me.
-Have fiery passions for things in his life.
-Try to instill passion in me. This is easier said than done, trust me.
-Be at least willing to attempt to understand my eccentricities. I'm an odd boy...
-Have himself an unusual air, because that's the pathway for attraction from my part.
-Be able to articulate how he's feeling without resorting to destructiveness.
-learn when to leave me alone, and when I really need him to make things better...
-Not be ashamed of who he is, in any situation.
-Like to cuddle, and be physically close/intimate.
-Take care of himself hygienically. I do find it sad that it even has to be said...
-Not gamble with his health or mine.
-Not use hard drugs, or attempt to convince me to use any drugs.
-Know his limits with alcohol. Social drinking even on a daily level is acceptable...
-Not be old enough to have contributed DNA towards my existence...
-Be willing to work as much and as hard for the benefit of US as I will.
-Be the one to take charge, but not become domineering.
-Be willing to talk openly about wants, needs, and expectation. Doing so will encourage me to do so in return...

Suggestions: These things are negotiable to varying degrees.
-Height. I suppose between 5'9"-6'6" respectively. I'm most attracted to taller men.
-Build. I'm most attracted to slender, toned men.
-Age. I feel that a reasonable range would be within 7years either way of my own.
-Hairstyle. I simply don't find long hair attractive on a man, at all.
-Having Artful/tasteful tattoos, preferably with some meaning.
-Moderate piercings, again artfulness has much to do with it.
-Have an eye for art or beauty in the natural world.
-Please don't be a smoker. I can live with it, but it's just not healthy.

This is in no way intended to be a complete list. Additionally, as I grow and learn I suspect this may change as my outlook and ideas become less fixed. Ah well. Constructive commentary is always appreciated.

-Ken