Libre

I'll just be forthcoming, I'm a judgmental person. Mentally, I observe and adjudicate on everything. I like to feel as if every person does this in some capacity, but I probably do so more than most. Once I have passed judgment, my ruling usually stands like firm concrete. I typically keep these judgements to myself, primarily because no one really ever wants to hear someone else's opinion. Secondarily, verbalizing one's judgement about another person is usually just a weak mind attempting to sway the opinion of others in its favor.    I find that usually within the first five minutes, of interaction with a new person, I have mentally formed an accurate image of their moral character. At that point, I either continue getting to know them, or decide to keep my interactions superficial. These rulings need not be entirely logically based. In fact, I find a good amount of time, that I can't quite put my finger on my reasons for why I feel a particular way. Maybe it's some subconscious observation of nano-behaviors. Perhaps I process body language on some level. However the result is achieved, my judgements of persons has yet to let me down.   In the practice of keeping an open mind, I'll go one record as saying that I do not think of a person as good or evil as a whole. I process my judgements more in terms of how they relate to me. The best way I can explai is to say, "this person is a bad influence" or "this person will be a positive influence".   A percentage people are just out for number one. Additionaly, a portion of that percentage is more aggressive in the means towards that their end. These people are almost always judged as a bad influence for me. While looking out for your own self isn't a bad quality, utilizing people as no more than mere commodities, to be consumed, for your own benefit is.     My partner has a friend; someone he's known since before he and I met. This friend is one of those people who are only out for their own benefit. My partner doesn't seem to see it, even through a still-failing business transaction. Part of his clouded  view is out of naive optimism for the human spirit.  Part of it is because of an emotional past. I could postulate that there is still some want for a continued sexual and emotional connection from my partner, in regards to this other man. I can't deny that my knowledge of this past connection, does weigh on my judgement. I can, however, state that I wouldn't have trusted this guy, regardless.     There is a large part of me, that wishes this guy was no longer a part of my partner's life and, by extension, my own. I don't want to be that manipulative person that forces the hand of my mate. I also don't want to say I told you so. All I can do for now is be supportive to my partner and keep my judgment to myself, even when this friend complains that someone put sugar in his gas tank..  How's that for reinforcing my judgement?